There’s a big difference with discerning and only trying.
If you discerned for that person it means you are sure about him/ her and you asked for God’s guidance with your desire to love and be part of that person.
But of course it should be the man to be genuine in his decision and not make it only as his option.
When you desire try not to be inconsistent. If you’re unsure with it, there will be hesitancy in the relationship. it will break the connection you just started. Yes it should and will always start from the man if he’s ready enough. Firm as a rock. Gentle as the wind.
Know that a woman and a man’s heart is both fragile and important to God. Guard your heart and use this to proclaim that God is love.. If you cannot see it yet , take heed your faith. Be still and trust that God has sown His love in each of you and you will recognize him or her in His perfect time.
Take time to know each other. Memorizing each days you were together. Understanding the difference of each individuals. Taking good care of each other’s comfort zone.
Respecting each other’s perception and outlook in life.
Have the purest intention and know that love can never be hidden. To all men, be gentle and pursue the woman. To all women, if you recognized his pure intention acknowledge it. Once it’s clearly said and done there shouldn’t be holding back as the scripture says:
1 John 4:18-19 There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love. We love because he first loved us.
A Journey to Remember 